When we talk about empathy and sympathy, we often use the terms interchangeably. Like they’re the same things. But in reality ...

Its amazing how small fights can turn into huge blow-ups. Suddenly it can feel as if your heart is being ripped out of you and everything is falling apart. There’s nothing wrong with you, that’s just ...

Vulnerability is a choice. It is a decision to be open to the risk of pain in exchange for the reward of a deep, existential connection.

Grief is usually associated with the mourning process that comes after a loved one dies. But, in most cases, grief actually begins well before death. This is true both for the person who dies, who ...

When the sex stops in your relationship, or you start having sex much less frequently, people usually think that it means there’s been a change in desire. They try to explain the change in their ...

For every couple, there are some topics that are sure to cause a fight. For some, it's the kids, money, vacations, household chores, or what Netflix movie to watch. But even though these conversations ...

Couples in therapy often ask me - How often do couples fight? It’s a legitimate question, but most of the time I don’t think they’re really asking me a question. I think they’re trying to tell me ...

Most of us don’t know how to make a real apology. That’s not surprising, because most of us have been taught from early childhood how to give fake apologies. You probably first learned how to give an ...

The phrase “Emotional Processing” or “Processing your Emotions” has become extremely popular recently. But what exactly does it actually mean? If you go online, you’ll find a million different ...

I lead a grief group every Saturday in San Francisco. And one of the most common complaints from grievers is that people won’t let them to talk about their grief. After a death, the world will give ...

The term Gaslighting comes from a spooky 1944 movie called Gaslight with Ingrid Bergman and Charles Boyer. In the movie, the husband tries to drive the wife crazy by constantly telling her that what ...

Couples often come to therapy with the idea that the goal is to be able to “get along” or “stop fighting”. That makes sense, because all that conflict, whether it comes out as yelling or the silent ...